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Spotting The Red flags In A 'Woke'boy's Matrimony Profile


There is a constant acquisition that Indian men look for a well-educated, good-looking, decent, family girl who can make round rotis. For the uninitiated, this may sound alarming, but, trust me, no Indian girl finds it remotely disturbing. We know this is how it works and have no qualms moving on without wasting a second. In my honest opinion, the above ad is at least straight forward, how much ever problematic it is. It warns women beforehand. But, there are quite a whole lot of ‘educated’ ‘decent’ ‘family’ men who have perfectly mastered the art of masquerading their sexism as wokeness. This is where women get confused because they are always trained to see any remote resemblance of good as benevolence.

So, this piece is basically to alert my fellow sisters from such latent sexism and swipe away the first chance they get. And, to my fellow Indian men that we are indeed aware of your silly tactics.

1. It is OK to prefer working woman and be honest about it. But, make sure it is conveyed properly.

We are looking for an ambitious, career-oriented, financially independent girl – X

We will let the girl work after marriage – NO, NO. Who the hell are you to ‘let’?

We are looking for a girl who works. I will cook, clean and manage the house equally – Hello, Equality!

2. How to convey that looks don’t matter.

I am not bothered about the girl’s complexion, looks or background – Hell No!

If you are really that ‘woke’ you need not have to distinguish it specifically in the first place. 
Basically, you have to just SHUT UP on this one. Only 2% of Indian men qualify the ‘handsome’ standard set by themselves. Yet, most Indian girls never openly say they are not bothered about the man’s looks, even if they do. Because it is rude to distinguish the good and bad (?) looking ones, especially if you claim to be ‘woke’.

3. Caste No Bar

Guess what is more horrid than being an open casteist person? The below statement you write unabashedly in your profile.

We are very liberal. We don’t care about your caste or community – X

Caste, community, gender (if applicable) No bar – As simple as that.

Well, there are other 'important criteria' like a traditional girl, interested in cooking girl, funny girl, happy girl, homely girl, adjustable girl, you name it. Dealing with everything is beyond the scope of this blog. But, if you spot any of the 3 red flags, run for your life, girl. 

Link to this article in women's web

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